Hi, I'm new to the online dating experience. I'm recently (6 mo) single and ready to experiment. I'd like to deepen my intimacy w/ a woman in Tantric yoga. Where the sexual experience is seen as a dance with no beginning or end. There is no goal, only the present moment of exquisite union. For this reason, lovemaking is meditative, expressive and intimate. Tantra teaches lovers how to extend the peak of their sexual ecstasy so that women and men can experience several orgasms in a single sexual encounter. If you like this intention, please feel free to connect with me...

I use ritual to develop intimacy. Begin our journey with a ritual. This may be something as simple as feeding each other delicious foods or sharing a glass of wine in the nude. Bathing together in order to attune to each other. Call me at 503-985-2184

Taking time to wash each other with loving care. Water relaxes the body and is a symbol of sexuality. Massaging each other is also an excellent way to fuse your energies. Or, read poetry to each other, dance, play, listen to music—working on developing intimacy. Most importantly, this time is to communicate, sharing what you adore about each other. The idea is to help feel loved and cherished.

In order to fully focus on each other (rather than on the goal of sex), I like to experiment with various intimate rituals for several weeks before moving on to the next steps or engaging in intercourse. This is a wonderful way to strengthen the bonds of love and ignite passion.

Breathing exercises quiet the mind and help us focus on each other.

We will try this exercise: Sit quietly, cross-legged, facing each other. Resting our hands on our knees with our palms facing up. As you gaze into your my eyes, take soft, but deep breaths. Keep your eyes open, gazing beyond the eyes, into the soul. Although this may feel awkward at first, sustained eye contact is essential for building intimacy.

Now, pay attention to your breathing. Begin to breathe at the same pace, bringing air slowly in through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. Maintain eye contact while you breathe together. Practice this exercise until we can sustain eye contact and harmonized breathing for about 10 minutes. Then, we may move into the next exercise.

Experiment with erotic touch to fully appreciate your partner. This most pleasurable practice will help us become better lovers. Although we should continue to maintain eye contact, don't worry about keeping your breath synchronized. Breath will come back into play later. Guide your partner as you take turns stimulating each other. Describe exactly how you would like to be touched.

Share desires in an encouraging way, making requests in a clear and loving manner. For example, i can ask to caress your clitoris or you my penis/lingum (or any erogenous zone), encouraging to apply more or less pressure, to stroke in a specific pattern, to use the tongue, etc. Thanking you my lover and let me know with words or sounds that you are enjoying this sensual touch.

Once you become comfortable with this process, we may wish to create a "pleasure chest." Include whatever excites you ~ a feather, vibrator, massage oil, blindfold, soft fabric, erotica and loving notes to each other are just a few ideas. As we pleasure each other, don't be shy about asking for something different.This is our time for appreciation, experimentation and for taking responsibility for your own fulfillment by asking for what you want.

From here, we may wish to embark on our own erotic journey. Create amorous adventures together, exploring new and creative ways to awaken each other's bodies and minds. Then, we will be ready for Tantric lovemaking.